I was on the phone with my best friend, Lizzie. She and I have been friends for over 8 years. We’ve been through shit together, we’ve cried together, laughed together, swore at each other, I love her with all my heart, she’s like my sister. If there is anyone in this world I could speak to with trust, without fear and boundaries best believe it’s her.
So basically she called me and she was venting about her boyfriend, they’ve been together for nearly 2 years and she was pouring out her feelings about how upset she’s been and confused. My girl was going through what I went through – realising boys ain’t worth shit.
“I put in so much effort and he doesn’t even put in half of what I put in. I did everything, I helped him, I made sure he okay, I made him food. He won’t come and visit me unless he’s able to see his mates… I don’t feel important. He tells me to go out and socialise and join stuff when I have so much work to do … ”
I swear it was like listening to myself.
If it’s one thing I’ve realised about relationships – boys – ahh – boys are just not worth it.
I’m gonna write down what I said to her because I feel like every girl needs to know this.
“Boys are not a necessity. They are a luxury. They are like a dessert. They are optional. Something to indulge in, not to invest. Boys are a spec on the canvas of your life. I understand you wanna get married and have kids but he’ll come and find you and the moment will fit in nicely with your life. Don’t force it, don’t try and find it. Focus on you and sooner or later, a man will focus on you. For there to be balance in a relationship both parties must put in the same force, this requires effort. As soon as one side doesn’t put in the same amount of effort, the balance is lost and the relationship falls apart.
Leave the relationship as soon as the I love you’s sound like sorry’s”
Don’t burn yourself to keep someone warm ~
Hope you found this helpful,